Grief as a Mystical Journey®


For memorial services, meditations,
or simply honoring the sacredness of loss and transition

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This can be done alone or in a group (this particular form is for a group).
Ideally outdoors in a beautiful natural setting. Feel free to improvise or modify as you see fit.


1. Pass a basket of rose petals around to the group members. Ask each person to choose three petals.


2. Each person will breathe in the scent of each petal, one by one, and then blow deeply into each petal, as follows (verbally guided by the facilitator):

. Into the first petal, blow in your pain, anger or sadness. The energies you wish to release.

. Into the second petal, blow in your love; your fond memories of the departed, or your intentions for healing.

. Into the third petal, blow any message you want to send to the departed, or blessings for their journey.


3. Bury the petals in the earth (or throw them into a river or stream if available) while continuing to breathe deeply and asking your guides to help open your heart as you move toward healing and restoration.


4. If there are petals or intact roses remaining, throw them into the river as well, or arrange them on top of the place where the petals are buried, as an altar to your healing. Over time, the  sun, wind and rain will break down the roses and carry your prayers and your energy to the elements.


This ceremony was originally created for a Memorial Day event to acknowledge the grief and suffering of affected by war and violence.
​But it can be adapted for any purpose you wish.

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1. Find a rose and take it into your back yard (or anywhere out in nature).


2. Remove three petals from the rose. Each petal represents one of the following:

. The life of someone who had died or suffered in war, and the grief of their loved ones
. The suffering of all people and animals who have been affected by war
. A prayer for peace


3. Hold the petals in your hands and blow into them three times. Let the grief, the trauma, the horrifying images of war and the intention for healing flow through your breath into the petals.


4. While saying a prayer for peace and unity, bury the petals in the earth. The earth -– which has also been wounded by war -– is strong enough to hold that energy for us. The earth will turn the energy of our pain, our grief and our hope into “spiritual compost” for healing.


5. Place the remaining rose on top of the place where the petals are buried, and dedicate it to humanity’s hope for harmony. Sit in silent meditation for as long as you’re comfortable before departing.


Creating an Earth-Healing Despacho  


1. Place a map of the world on the floor in front of you.


2. After blowing into the three rose petals, place them on top of the map, along with other natural elements that you've gathered,such as seeds, leaves, flowers, stones or herbs.


3. Place these items on the map,and arrange them around the areas of the world in most need of healing (Israel, Washington DC, Syria, etc).


4. Wrap the map and the elements into a sacred bundle, bless it with your prayers, and release it to the spiritual realm by burning it your fireplace or outdoor fire pit. You can also send the bundle down a river or bury it in the earth.

Life Honoring for Elders

This ceremony was created specifically for hospice patients in assisted living facilities,
but can be done for older individuals or groups of any kind.


1. If possible, acquire information on each of the participating elders about what they are most proud of in their lives (careers, families, academic accomplishments, creative work, etc).


2. In the ceremony, with the elders (and their families) gathered, read off the names of each elder and his/her accomplishment, for example, "We honor Jane Doe for her outstanding career as a professor,"  or "We honor John Doe for his distinguished miltary career."


3. When each name is read, the person is given a "sacred bundle," such as the  little mesh bag with a stone pictured here.


4. When everybody is seated with their bundles, instruct them to hold the bundle to their heart and breathe into it all their fond memories, feelings of pride about their accomplishments, sense of peace about end-of-life, and the legacies they want to leave behind.


5. They will keep the bundle with them and hold it to their hearts anytime they are experiencing strong emotions (concerns about death, feelings of loss, etc), and let it give them comfort about having a life well-lived.


6. When the person dies, the bundle is given to their family.